Everyone talks about how important persuasion skills are, and here I am nodding my head like a wobbly bobblehead.  They're absolutely, and most definitely, right.

Persuasion skills are truly a superpower. THE MOST IMPORTANT SUPERPOWER OF THEM ALL:

BUT, THERE IS A BIG, BIG PROBLEM:

Traditional persuasion tactics and techniques simply don’t work. Or, not nearly as well as people would have you believe.

Here's one of the reasons why:  A lot of traditional persuasion tactics and techniques were extrapolated by researchers from research studies or social experiments in controlled environments or situations (and not real-life situations).

You probably know many of these traditional tactics and techniques, such as:

You might have learned these traditional tactics and techniques from some of these famous books on persuasion and influence:

There are a lot of others teaching roughly the same things.  Personally, I've spent a fortune on these resources to learn about persuasion myself.

If you're reading this, you've probably spent quite a bit of money yourself trying to learn persuasion skills.  Am I right?!

LIKE I SAID, THIS SUPERPOWER IS SO IMPORTANT, IT SHOULD BURN INSIDE YOU TO MASTER IT.

I'm sure you know this already: Investing in your persuasion and influence skills is absolutely the best investment you could ever make.

But...only if it actually made you more persuasive. Herein lies the problem!

Mastering persuasion and influence in the way it is currently taught, is very difficult and usually fruitless.

You must take a different approach!

You’ve probably even tried out a lot of the traditional persuasion tactics and techniques you learned in the above books, right?

Not so well, right?! 

Same here!

As soon as you tried to use these traditional persuasion tactics and techniques in real-life situations, everything went to sh-t, right?

Do you feel like all the money you've spent to learn persuasion and influence went down the drain?  Me too!

For years, too many than I care to remember, I struggled trying to use these traditional tactics and techniques to build my business, represent my legal clients, advise my corporate overlords to do the right (i.e. ethical and legal) things, convince my friends and family to do the things that were in their best interests, get girls to go out with me, and all sorts of other things.

All with limited (and mixed) success, but mostly with a lot less success than I desired or envisioned.

Here are a few reasons why traditional persuasion methods don't really work:

These traditional persuasion tactics and techniques developed in research studies or social experiments can’t account for all of the myriad factors that come into play in real-life situations.

Real-life and human beings are just too complex and can't be dealt with using simple tactics or insights gleaned from limited, controlled social experiments. 

Don’t get me wrong.  These traditional methods are not necessarily incorrect, but what I am saying is that they are useless without something else.

#2) Traditional persuasion advice is usually just a random collection of tactics.

This one is simple to understand.

A random collection of persuasion tactics is hardly a framework or system, no matter how powerful, interesting, or effective a particular tactic seems to be. But, throwing around random tactics is unreliable as a persuasion method.

#3) Traditional persuasion methods are like a puzzle they’ve given you, but the most important puzzle piece is MISSING!

Because that puzzle piece is missing, it renders those traditional persuasion tactics and techniques impotent, flaccid, and limp.

Persuasion is "puzzling" for most people because no matter what tactics or techniques you learn, they just don't seem to work as well as they would have you think.

But, it's not because you're stupid or incompetent at carrying out these tactics and techniques.

And, it's not because people look down on you or don't take you seriously.

It's because traditional persuasion methods, while claiming to rely heavily on psychology, COMPLETELY IGNORE other very important psychological principles that are MASSIVE OBSTACLES to persuading and influencing other human beings.

Ignoring these PSYCHOLOGICAL PITFALLS means being unable to persuade consistently, effectively, and successfully.

And...traditional persuasion methods offer NO SOLUTION for these MASSIVE PITFALLS.

Let's talk about one of them right now:

We just established that traditional persuasion methods are like a puzzle with a massive puzzle piece missing.

NPP is that missing puzzle piece which FINALLY SOLVES the "persuasion puzzle" for you.

KNOW THIS: It's not just a tiny puzzle piece that's missing in traditional persuasion methods, but an ENORMOUS, GAPING PUZZLE PIECE.

This puzzle piece is so BIG that it is malpractice for people to talk about persuasion without also teaching and leveraging what you will learn in NPP.

(If you needed a license to teach persuasion and influence, these practitioners would lose their licenses!)

Sorry I can't reveal what that BIG PUZZLE PIECE is here, but it has something to do with the following:

Traditional persuasion tactics and techniques rely heavily on the use of force, manipulation, shadiness, and sleaze.

Who are we to think that WE can persuade anybody to do anything WE want, when WE want?!

In many ways, it is incredibly egocentric, self-interested, and self-centered to want to do this and believe we can do this.

We think that using traditional persuasion tactics and techniques should be as simple as pulling "triggers" to make people do what we want, when we want.

What we want isn't what other people necessarily want, so what gives us the right to insist on only what we want?

(Oops, I think I just revealed another psychological pitfall that has to be managed just now...)

Let's just say persuasion is just not as simple as they would have you think.